saw a woman at the store the other day with her 4 children, and the oldest
one asked her mother "Mama? Is it food stamp day?" The girls mother said
no. Eying the candy lining the checkout lane, she asked "Well, can we
still get something anyway?" Her mom said no, and started fussing about
them always wanting stuff, etc.
Considering she was only buying
three things and had a coupon for those items, I wondered if she possible could not afford to buy a candy (because four kids mean four candies) or if she just didn't think they needed anything? I wanted SOOOO badly to tell her I'd buy each of the
kids one candy ...but then... I remembered a friend of mine telling me a similar story.
She said her child asked for a candy, and she told her child no. A stranger offered to buy the child some candy, and the mom was like "fine, whatever, take the candy." Once they were outside, the mother opened
and discarded the candy to teach her child that 1) No means no and 2)
Not to take stuff from strangers.
So in the end, I decided not to say anything to
the mom/kids... What do you think? How could I approach that kind of situation next time to
see if she would allow me to get them something or if she is a "no
means no" kind of parent? I'm a sucker for spoiling kids, especially
those in need.