Do you trust your mom, dad, siblings? Husband, wife, children? Best friend?
Why do you trust them?
What did they do to prove to you that they can be trusted?
Has your trust ever been broken?
Did you forgive them?
Because they deserved to be forgiven?
Because you value their friendship more than your broken trust?
...or because you were afraid if you didn't everything you trusted them with would be in danger of being exposed?
I have a friend (and no this isn't one of those 'i have a friend' that's really me moments), who is in the situation where they trusted someone. A friend. A good one. They hung out all the time, lent each other money, made dinner for each other - life was great between them. In fact, she was their only true friend for a while. And it seemed like friends like her were hard to come by.
Then they got in an argument.
And that same friend caused my friend to lose their job.
Now, I've never believed in mixing work and social life. I've only got about 6 people from my highly populated and very socially connected job on my Facebook (and even they are listed on a separate 'acquaintance' list). It's not that I have anything bad on my webpage, I just don't trust them not to allow personal feelings to interject in our work relationships. When I was the PR over an organization and my best friend was President, we never discussed organization business while "hanging out". I just don't like that line to be crossed. And that's my prerogative.
And this is all besides the point. And another post for another day.
Growing up, all i've ever heard was "Don't trust everybody." "Don't trust someone whose too nice to you." "Don't trust someone who obviously dislikes you." "Don't trust strangers." "Don't trust white people." "You can't trust your own kind." "Guys can't be trusted." "Girls are very catty. Don't trust them." "Don't trust everyone who smiles in your face."
And the latest, "God said trust no man."
So now i'm confused.
Am I just supposed to give up hope on mankind in general? Can no one in this world be trusted?
Because in all the years that i've been taught who NOT to trust, i've never been taught who TO trust or HOW to trust.
I've fought for so long to believe in trust. After all, isn't that essentially what a relationship is built on? And honestly, my trust has been broken many more times than not. So why haven't I stopped trusting people? Is it an immaturity that I have yet to grow out of?
Or maybe, I just still believe in humanity. Maybe my spirit just hasn't reached the breaking point yet. Maybe I believe that I can not possibly be the only person with good intentions in the world. I am FAR far from the perfect person, and yet its so hard to find someone who cares for me the way I try to care for others. The kind of love that God wants us to exemplify, and that I struggle to understand completely.
Do we do as we are instructed and trust no man? Or do we keep placing our heart, souls and trust in others and put them at risk for being broken one by one?